I was reminded yesterday how easy it is to make a difference in your grandkids lives. One of the wigglies woke up and had a full day of Valentine fun waiting for him at school – party, games, candy and etc. Yet, his first question was “Is Grama getting me a Valentine’s gift this year?”
He remembered last year – a gift bag with some fun dollar store items.
See, it doesn’t take much to make a memory and leave behind warm feelings.
I am fortunate enough to have my grands live nearby and get to interact with them daily if I choose.
There are many who have complemented me on my Grama skills and I really don’t feel like I am any different than anyone else could be.
So, I thought I’d make a few suggestions for anyone who is looking for ideas.
In no particular order:
Æ Sleep overs – makes messes but worth the effort.
Æ When they walk in the door, stop everything and welcome them with hugs – so easy yet so many of us are so busy in the kitchen or whatever we just holler hi and let it go. Take the time to stop, purposefully gather them in your arms and tell them how much you love them and are so happy they are here – even if you just saw them the day before.
Æ Sit and listen. Ask questions and listen to their answers – too many of us ask questions and let their answers sail over our heads as we concentrate on something else.
Æ Read to them – go to the library together and pick out books.
Æ Lay in the yard and watch clouds.
Æ Lie on the driveway and watch the ants make ant hills.
Æ Go hunting with them.
Æ Target practice with them.
Æ Bake cookies together.
Æ Write a story together.
Æ Paint and color together.
Æ Send a card in the mail – add a piece of gum, a dollar, stickers you got in the mail. Mine live across the road and I still mail cards. Who doesn’t like mail?
Æ Attend sporting events – even in cold, freezing, wet weather.
Æ Attend band and choral concerts.
Æ Take them out for lunch and leave your phone in the car.
ÆTake selfies with them.
Æ Sing with them.
Æ Play games – and do puzzles. If you are babysitting don’t set them in front of the TV – interact. We have a puzzle that has been put together 100s of times – well not quite but over and over again.
Æ Take walks – look for interesting things on your path. We walk to the back fields and find corn stalks that become swords and flowers that become magic wands.
Æ Swing together. A back porch swing is a Grama’s delight. So much happens while swinging on a hot sunny afternoon.
ÆTake them shopping. I take my two girls every year before school to purchase an outfit. I started this in kindergarten – I never had girls and it’s so much fun. This year they are in 6th grade.
Æ Make Lego towers and plow fields of corn dumped on your living room floor.
Æ Make houses out of empty boxes.
Æ Make forts with blankets and rearranged furniture.
Æ Send texts and funny GIFs.
Æ Ask them what they want to do and do it!
Æ Pick flowers.
Æ Ask them about their friends at school and have them tell you what they are like.
Æ The most important and never ending thing is to pray. Pray for safety and good companions. Pray that they will hunger for God and have closer walk with him. Pray that God will reveal himself to them.
Whatever you do, do it with purpose wrapped in love. Gramas are meant to love, not discipline and correct (upon some occasions but I avoid it at all costs.)